Avoiding Patronizing or Demeaning Expressions
These are expressions which can offend, regardless of intention. References to age, sex, religion, race, and the like should only be included if they are relevant.
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Avoid This
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Use This Instead
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girls (when referring to adult women), the fair sex
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women
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sweetie, dear, dearie, honey
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(usually not appropriate with strangers or in public situations)
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old maid, bachelorette, spinster
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single woman, woman, divorced woman (but only if one would specify "divorced man" in the same context)
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the little woman, old lady, ball and chain
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wife
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boy (when referring to or addressing an adult man)
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man, sir
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Avoiding Language That Excludes or Unnecessarily Emphasizes Differences
References to age, sex, religion, race, and the like should be included only if they are relevant.
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Avoid This
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Use This Instead
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lawyers and their wives
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lawyers and their spouses
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a secretary and her boss
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a secretary and boss, a secretary and his or her boss
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the male nurse
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the nurse
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Arab man denies assault charge
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Man denies assault charge
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the articulate black student
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the articulate student
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Marie Curie was a great woman scientist
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Marie Curie was a great scientist (unless the intent is to compare her only with other women in the sciences)
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Christian name
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given name, personal name, first name
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Mr. Johnson, the black representative, met with the President today to discuss civil-rights legislation.
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Mr. Johnson, a member of the Congressional Black Caucus, met with the President today to discuss civil-rights legislation.
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