With Dreams of Joy, I wanted to write about a mother-daughter relationship. I also wanted to create two women who would have their own unique voices. Joy is nineteen, stubborn, naïve, and has run away to China. Pearl, Joy’s mother, chases after her daughter, hoping to bring her home. Joy follows her Tiger personality and often leaps blindly into situations she shouldn’t, while Pearl has had a lifetime of heartbreak and knows from experience that whatever she does will be tempered by fate, destiny, and the vicissitudes of luck. Joy is absolutely sure of herself, while Pearl questions everything.
Joy makes some terrible mistakes, which, as a mother and her writer, I sometimes found hard to watch. Like Pearl, I often felt great pity for Joy but also great impatience. Did these things make her difficult to write? Not really. All I had to do was put myself back in time. I, too, was pretty stubborn and naïve at her age. (What nineteen-year-old isn’t?) With Joy, I think in particular of a scene in the novel where she’s been caught secretly visiting a boy in a village. She keeps insisting “Nothing happened,” when of course it did. Been there, done that—and other dumb things— myself. In fact, this really hit home for me recently when my step-sister brought out a bunch of letters I wrote to her when we were between the ages of sixteen and nineteen. We laughed very hard as we read the letters aloud to each other, but I also couldn’t help feeling real sympathy and compassion for the earnest, but totally idiotic, girl I was back then.
I’m now closer in age to Pearl, and I was already familiar with her strengths and weaknesses from Shanghai Girls. Her
words and sentiments flowed very easily, because I’ve now lived with her every day for over four years. But even if I didn’t know Pearl as well as I do, I could relate to her purely as one mother to another. After all, what mother on earth hasn’t had moments when she’s thought to herself, as Pearl does at one point, It’s just so hard to be a mother? What mother hasn’t worried when she’s seen her child making a life-changing mistake? What mother hasn’t tried to “fix” things for her child, only to make things worse? (But we make things better most of the time, right?) What mother hasn’t at some point had to hide her sadness, anger, and grief, as Pearl does? I could write about those aspects of motherhood, because I’ve experienced them myself.
I drew on all of my experiences as a mother to write Pearl, just as I drew on all my experiences of being a daughter to write Joy. What a “joy” it was, as Joy’s literary mother and as a mother myself, to watch her go through all the terrible things she experiences and see her grow into a wonderful artist and courageous mother. And how happy I was that Pearl, who has been through so much, finally got to have a happy ending.
You don’t need to be a mother to enjoy Dreams of Joy. (Although if you are, it may make you think about the emotions you’ve felt or the experiences you’d had with your own children.) But one thing I can say for certain: we were all young and daughters once upon a time. I hope that as you read Dreams of Joy, you will remember yourself at age nineteen. Be kind, laugh ruefully, and try to have a little sympathy and compassion for the girl you were back then.
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I was eagerly waiting for this book, can’t wait to read it. Thanks Lisa for your wonderful stories.
I just finished “Dreams of Joy”. I could not put it down! It’s a wonderful story. The characters are so real you don’t want the story to end. I hope a third book continues where this one leaves off! I’m not ready to say goodbye to Pearl, May and Joy.
I just finished Dreams of Joy. This Spring I spent three weeks in China. It is hard to believe that conditions were once so hard. The characters in Dreams of Joy are so varied. The relationships are complex. I recommend this to fans of Lisa See. Those who don’t know her writing try this novel.
Great letter! I received this book as an advance copy! Utterly vivid. The characters came to life in their circumstances and through their choices. I loved it. Truly touching. Thank you Lisa See
I am absolutely fascinated by the story as narrated by Ms. See. I hope to be able to read the book soon.
I loved Ms. See’s “Snow Flower and the Secret Fan” and “Shanghi Girls”. I can’t wait to recieve my copy of “Dreams of Joy”!
I used to receive complimentary advance copies of various books. Are these still available? And how may I obtain them? Thank you. Marie
A great story about Lisa: http://www.chicagotribune.com/entertainment/books/ct-books-0827-lisa-see-20110824,0,4374765.story