In this essential book by the acclaimed author of Queen Bees and Wannabees, Rosalind Wiseman explains the way boys think to show parents, educators, and coaches how to reach out and help boys overcome their most common yet difficult challenges.
Queen Bees and Wannabes, the groundbreaking book and the basis of the hit film Mean Girls, upended assumptions about how teenage girls relate to one another. But lost in the attention was an equally important and vulnerable group: boys. Less prone to talk about their feelings, stereotyped as settling every dispute with a fistfight, boys face social issues that have long been ignored as an important key to understanding their behavior. Hence, Wiseman worked collaboratively for two years with middle-school and high-school boys to show the emotional terrain they inhabit. What she learned is critically important for any parent to know. Boys feel pain and need support, just as much as girls–but they’re far more likely to hide their feelings, claim everything is “fine” and believe that adult involvement will only make their lives worse. Their cliques and social hierarchies, dominated by mastermind ringleaders and adjutant wingmen, exert as powerful an influence as “queen-bee factions,” but they can be even more difficult for parents to see, let alone decipher. This book explains how parents can recognize what their son is dealing with and break through communication barriers to provide the critical support a boy needs to succeed and to develop a positive, authentic, and strong sense of self.
“This book is a gem. Rosalind Wiseman offers readers deep, nuanced, up-to-the-minute insight into today’s boy. She explains how and why boys, in so many areas, make it easy for parents and educators to miss out on their suffering and their strength. Most important, she shows how to reach out and lift boys up without getting on their nerves.”
–Wendy Mogel, PhD, author of the New York Times bestseller The Blessing of a Skinned Knee
“Trying to communicate with boys–teenage boys especially–can sometimes feel like cracking the world’s most complicated secret code. What makes Masterminds and Wingmen so remarkable is how thoroughly it decrypts boy-world language. It allows us to really connect with boys. If you want to understand what’s in your son’s head, read this book!”
–Michael Gurian, New York Times bestselling author of The Wonder of Boys
“Rosalind Wiseman is perhaps America’s foremost guide through the complex social hierarchies and cruel logics that govern adolescents’ lives. And Masterminds and Wingmen maps the foreign territory of boys’ social and interior emotional lives as deftly and compassionately as Wiseman’ s earlier book on girls. With clear analysis and down-to-earth practical advice, this book will guide many many conversations between parents and their sons.”
–Michael Kimmel, author of Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men
“Rosalind Wiseman brings a distinctive perspective and voice to whatever issue she takes up. She did it in Queen Bees and Wannabes. Now she’s done it again, revealing the inner workings of ‘Boy World.’ I found the book insightful and useful, as both a father to sons and as a professional working with violent youth who must deal with the most serious life issues facing other people’s sons.”
–James Garbarino, PhD, author of Lost Boys: Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them
“Don’t even try parenting, teaching, or coaching a boy without reading Wiseman’s book–a field manual that you’ll absolutely need if you wish to enter the strange and wondrous world of guys.”
–Richard Whitmire, author of Why Boys Fail: Saving Our Sons from an Educational System That’s Leaving Them Behind
“The world bombards boys with confusing and destructive messages–the net result is the creation of characters instead of young men with character. Masterminds and Wingmen will help parents, teachers, and coaches understand young boys and make a difference in their lives. An intriguing read.”
–Dr. Kevin Leman, author of Have a New Kid by Friday
The Guide: Managing Jerks, Recruiting Wingmen, and Attracting Who You
Want is the groundbreaking non-fiction ebook written in partnership between Rosalind Wiseman and over 200 high school students.
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WINNER 2013 - Books for a Better Life Book Award
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ROSALIND WISEMAN is an internationally recognized expert on children, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadership, and the New York Times bestselling author of Queen Bees and Wannabes and Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads.