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How did you get involved in treating anorexia?
Both of my daughters suffered from anorexia.
The condition was particularly severe in my second daughter,
Nicole. Initially, I took her to a myriad of professionals
who worked in the field. I was told many different things
but the theme of all responses was unrelenting in its
negativity: "she will be a statistic within months"... "she
is spoiled and vain"... "she is a selfish girl, trying to
get attention, and you, as her mother, are to blame"... "try
to get therapy for yourself and accept the fact that she is
going to die".
I knew my daughter well, and therefore, I knew that what
I had been told was not the truth. Presumably, this disorder
had a psychological premise which I realized I had to
unravel in order to save her life. This I was determined to
do. I was completing undergraduate work in psychology when
Nicole became ill. I decided it was necessary to emotionally
distance myself by objectifying her as a case study. It was
a slow, difficult process but the alternative was
unfathomable.
And how are your daughters now?
Following their complete recovery they
pursued various interests for several years. Their deep
sensitivity and commitment to this cause is now realized in
their integral involvement with the treatment of other
victims of this insidious disorder. Today they are essential
members of the counselling and teaching team at the Montreux
Clinic.
Many people think about anorexia as a disease about
food, but you disagree with that.
Yes, I certainly disagree. I have come to
understand that "eating disorders" are the symptom, not the
disease. We have coined the phrase "Confirmed Negativity
Condition" from which anorexia springs. Food is involved,
only in that it is synonymous with self worth. These
sufferers do not recognize that they have any value. They
have assumed that they are not worthy of life and deny
themselves food in order to fulfill that belief.
Every new patient arrives in such dire need. How can
you be so sure that you can succeed where others have failed
over and over again?
I know that eating disorders are completely
reversible for anyone who follows the appropriate steps. I
have seen this confirmed innumerable times. The best way to
cure patients afflicted with eating disorders is to envelope
them with positive caring 24 hours a day until reason and
logic take the place of the negative mental construct. To
truly effect this requires the united efforts of an extended
care team, as well as the patient's family and wider social
support structure. It is essential that everyone involved
understands that the responsibility for recovery must be
placed on their shoulders--not the patient's.
For those of us who have never known someone with the
disease of anorexia explain a little bit about what is going
on with the patient.
Well, you're lucky if you haven't seen it.
The suffering that they go through is something that nobody
can relate to. Anorexics worry about everyone else--not
themselves--and when they realize that they can't fix
everything, then they begin to feel worthless. That negative
self-image is so powerful that victims simply stop eating.
These unusually sensitive people realize that they cannot
solve the world's problems and collapse into self-loathing.
Anorexia is really an unconscious attempt at suicide because
the victims don't believe that they deserve to live. There
is a negative mind-set that convinces them that they have to
die. It is a complex and devious, deep mind-set. The
victim's mind is able to construct such negativity against
themselves so that the patient actually has a civil war
going on in their head.
Before a patient enters Montreux, you talk to them
about how you and your staff will take responsibility for
them. What do you mean by this? Shouldn't these victims work
on taking responsibility for themselves?
This is one of the most profound
misunderstandings concerning this condition. Putting
responsibility on the victim is the antithesis of what is
required. These are sensitive, caring individuals who have
already placed immense burdens upon themselves in their
perception of society's need. Patients in the acute stage of
an eating disorder manifestation are emotional infants who
are generally incapable of allowing themselves any favors.
It is therefore incumbent on us to provide the nurturing and
support that has become vital to their survival.
How have traditional approaches failed in the
treatment of anorexia?
If one is attempting, merely, to treat the
symptom (and anorexia and bulimia are only symptoms), then
the task becomes very difficult indeed. Traditional
approaches generally assume that the patients can do it
themselves and the onus of the responsibility is put on a
patient who is too weak to assume it. Focussing only on
increasing weight for release from the hospital invites
recidivism. Many programs focus on behavior
modification--improving the self-esteem--but when the
negative mind is in control, there is no self to esteem. To
say, however, that traditional approaches have failed is
perhaps unfair. Certainly many people must have been
successfully treated elsewhere. What I have come to realize
is that, perhaps, there are gaps in traditional programs
that make it much more difficult, and often impossible, to
effect complete recovery. We are attempting to fill some of
these. The patients need a map, a guide to show them through
to a point of possibility. Someone has to convince them that
they deserve to live. Once these victims know that there is
hope in the world--they can make it--they hold on. They're
so incredibly tenacious. It's amazing to watch them follow
through. Hopefully we will all share what we have learned
about this negative mind state and grow together. All people
who attempt to tackle this condition should be commended.
But isn't this 24-hour care you provide at Montreux
expensive?
What is very expensive is the endless cycle
of hospital programs. Also and think most importantly of the
expense of human life that is wasted in the interim. Why not
take longer and treat the condition more thoroughly the
first time?
There's a great demand for what you do but there are
limits to how many patients you can care for. You are
obviously a very caring and compassionate person saving the
lives of so many. How can you bear to turn patients away?
It is difficult and often devastating to have
to make these choices. I have written this book with the
hope that it will give parents and other care givers a
deeper understanding of how to effectively care for those in
need. Our next project is the development of a professional
training centre. Employing a small teaching hospital format,
we hope to be able to intensively train several hundred
individuals per year in all aspects of our treatment model.
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