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New
Terms and Techniques Introduced in
SECRETS OF THE BABY WHISPERER FOR TODDLERS
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Conscious Discipline - Discipline is education: a way of teaching and reminding your toddler how to behave. Part of this process involves watching your own behavior, listening to the way you talk to your child, and being mindful of the lessons you're actually teaching-- hence, conscious discipline. (Chapter 7)
The Rule of One/Two/Three - The first time a child does something that crosses a line the parents set, take notice; the second time it happens, it's the onset of a pattern that could become habitual; the third time it's a good bet that the behavior won't go away by itself and the parents have to ask, what am I doing to perpetuate it? The idea is no to get to "three." (Chapter 7)
Respectful Intervention - When a child misbehaves, parents must remain composed and compassionate; never embarrass, shame, or humiliate; and always be mindful of teaching, rather than punishing. Respectful intervention has these components: (Chapter 7)
State the rule.
Explain the effect of the behavior.
Make the child apologize and give the other child a hug.
Explain the consequence.
Tantrum Two-Step - When a child has a meltdown, analyze (use the ABC's) and act (use one of the three D's). (Chapter 7)
The ABC Method - A strategy for analyzing behavior problems by looking at the Antecedent--what came first; Behavior--what the toddler did; Consequence--the usual result of "A" and "B," which involves parents taking responsibility for their actions. (Chapters 7, 8)
The Three D's - Distract (get toddler involved in something else); Detach (ignore the behavior; turn or walk away); and Disarm (physically restrain or give a time out that removes child from setting). (Chapter 7)
Time-Busters - A frustrating, seemingly endless and prolonged behavioral difficulty that robs hour from parents' days--and nights; chronic problems rooted in accidental parenting. The most common time-busters are sleep difficulties, separation anxiety, pacifier addiction (which can contribute to or cause sleep disturbances), chronic tantrums, and mealtime misbehavior. (Chapter 8)
Prop - Any device, be it a human breast or pacifier, or an intervention, such as rocking or the motion of a car, that causes an infant distress when withdrawn. Dependence on props--such as pacifier addiction--can leads to sleep difficulties and/or a child's inability to self-soothe and, in turn, can cause a time-buster. (Chapter 8)
Sensible Sleep - A practical approach to sleep whereby babies are taught to fall asleep in their cribs and on their own (with props) but, at the same time, are never left to cry themselves to sleep. (Chapter 8)
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