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New
Terms and Techniques Introduced in
SECRETS OF THE BABY WHISPERER FOR TODDLERS
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Baby-whispering
- Tuning in, observing, listening, and understanding what's happening from the child's perspective; talking with, not at, a toddler (having a dialogue), and respecting him or her as a separate human being. (Intro)
Whole-family approach - in which baby is integrated into
family life rather than the other way around. (Introduction,
Chapters 1, 2)
Temperament types - As introduced in first book, toddlers, like babies, generally fall into one of five types: Angel, Text-Book, Touchy, Spirited, and Grumpy. Temperament affects how they eat, sleep, adapt to new circumstances and new people. (Chapters 1, 2, 5, 6)
Accidental parenting: The consequences of parents not thinking through their own behavior, which ends up reinforcing negative behavior. (Intro, Chapter 1, 7, 8)
HELP -A reminder of the four factors that enable parents to create and nurture the parent/child bond, keep a toddler out of harm's way and, at the same time, the child's growth and independence. (Chapters 2, 4, 8)
Hold yourself back
Encourage exploration
Limit
Praise
Parenting Styles - Three types: Controller, Enabler, and Helper. (Chapters 2, 3, 6, 7)
"Controller" leans toward the authoritarian end of the continuum. Controllers are strict, even rigid about standards, and have no trouble setting limits for their children or levying punishment for misdeeds, but they tend not to give their children much leeway.
"HELPer" exhibits a good balance of loving and limit-setting--behavior is consistent with the letters of HELP.
"Enabler" tends to be overprotective; hovers rather than allow a child to explore freely and is laissez-faire and lax about limits.
R & R - Routines and rituals that give structure to daily life and continuity to holidays and special occasions. (Chapter 3)
Milestones of Mobility - Typical developments that transform babies into toddlers. (3) (Chapter 3)
Learning Triangle - A zone within which activities and toys fall, so that a child's physical and mental capacity is stretched but not to the extent that play frequently ends in frustration or tears. (3) (Chapter 3)
The Four P's of Potty Success - Potty (one that fits child's size); Patience (never rush the process or look disappointed; all children progress at their own speed; Practice (child needs as much as possible); Presence (sit with child; cheer him on). (Chapter 4)
TLC - A reminder of the key elements of communication: Talk, Listen, Clarify.
TALK about everything and anything. Describe your day, his activities, things in the immediate environment.
LISTEN attentively to both your child's verbal and nonverbal expressions so that he feels heard and also learns how to be attentive himself.
CLARIFY by repeating the correct word or expanding on ideas and without scolding or making your child feel that his speech is "wrong"
BanguagE - Baby language, including vocalizations and babbling, transform into child's first words. (Chapter 5)
Rehearsals for change - A way of giving a child practice in the skills she needs to handle various situations in the real world by encouraging her to first try them out at home. A rehearsal for change can prepare your child for relationships, activities--or both. Toddlers who can try out more adult behaviors in the safe, familiar and controlled arms of the family (eating at a table, sharing, being kind to a pet) tend to have an easier time with unfamiliar experiences outside the house, new people, and transitions. (Chapters 6, 7)
Playgroup Types - Observers" (usually Grumpy or Touchy toddler) tend to hold themselves back a bit, let another child play with a toy before they attempt it, or go off in a corner, where there's less stimulation and less interference.
"Interactors" (usually Angel, Textbook, and Spirited) initiate play, make eye contact, reach out for other children, kiss them. (Chapter 6)
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