Excerpted from Still Life with Husband by Lauren Fox. Copyright © 2007 by Lauren Fox. Excerpted by permission of Vintage, a division of Random House LLC. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Lauren Fox is the author of Still Life with Husband. She earned her MFA from the University of Minnesota in 1998, and her work has appeared in The New York Times, Marie Claire, Seventeen, Glamour, and Salon. She lives in Milwaukee with her husband and two daughters.
Q: STILL LIFE WITH HUSBAND is your debut novel. Where did the idea come from? And how long have you been working on it?
A: I had the idea for this novel several years ago. It struck me that men who cheat on their partners receive so much attention in literature and popular culture, but, aside from a few obvious examples women who stray are sort of ignored. I know people whose relationships have been affected by infidelity, and it’s not always the men who are guilty. I started to wonder if I could tell a sympathetic story about a woman who has an affair.
It took me five years to write this book, but I had a baby in the middle of that time period, so I took a brief two-year break to wallow in a cesspool of hormonal muck, then to run around after a kamikaze toddler, then finally, when things were slightly more under control, to sit and stare at the computer screen and wonder where my brain had gone...
Q: So your narrator is a young married woman. You are a young married woman. Your narrator freelances for magazines. You freelance for magazines. You see where I’m going with this? You’re writing about infidelity. Are you worried you will be confused with your narrator?
A: Yeah, and I lifted many, many more superficial details from my life and plopped them into Emily’s story—she lives in my apartment, hangs out at my favorite places, and she has my frizzy hair. Maybe I was looking for a fictional thrill. In fact, I think that, because this was my first novel, I did rely on a lot of those surface elements because they made it easier for me to delve into the heart and mind of someone who’s not like me at all. Fiction is fiction. If I had called the book STILL LIFE WITH HUSBAND: A MEMOIR, well, that would be another story altogether —a much more boring story.
Q: Since I already know you are a happily married woman, how did you come to the idea of writing about infidelity? What parts of it proved to be challenging?
A: The whole idea was challenging and complicated and even a little bit painful, and I think those are the things that drew me to it. The pull between loyalty and desire, between what’s ethical and what seems crucial for your own survival, and the decision to hurt someone you love—those are really interesting struggles to me, and I liked spelunking in Emily’s psyche, figuring out what decisions she would come to based on what she thought she needed most. I really grew to like her, and sometimes as I was writing the novel, I’d think, “Oh, Emily, don’t do it!” And then, of course, I’d make her do it.
Q: I heard a rumor that your husband didn’t see the manuscript until it was completed. Is this true?
A: Absolutely. My husband is an insightful reader and a careful critic, but I just couldn’t make good use of his skills while I was writing this book. “Honey, could you read the passage where the wife— hmm, yes, I guess she does look like me!—decides to sleep with another man, and tell me if you think the verbs are strong enough?” In fact, though, hardly anybody saw the manuscript while I was working on it. I felt that I would be too susceptible to criticism. I felt protective of Emily and her complicated world, and I wasn’t ready for anyone to mess with it until I was finished.
Q: You started this book before you were a mother, and completed it after. Do you think the birth of your daughter had any influence on the book’s resolution, and do you think it will influence your writing in the future?
A: Having a child made me a more productive writer, because when I know I only have ninety minutes to work, I tend not to fiddle around the way I used to when I had the whole day stretching out in front of me. You can’t spend three hours reading about the history of lentils when preschool pickup time is 11:15. As children do, my daughter has also changed the way I think about myself. I’m much less invested in my success or failure as a writer, which has freed me to write exactly what I want to write.
I don’t think that my daughter’s birth affected the resolution of this novel specifically, but it is true that, toward the end of the writing of the book, I was closer to the experience of pregnancy and able to imagine that aspect of Emily’s experience more fully.
One thing I’ve noticed since my daughter was born is that I find it much harder to think about, much less write about, really awful, sad things. I’m planning to focus on musical comedies from now on.
Q: You earned your MFA from the University of Minnesota. Have you always known you wanted to be a writer?
A: When I was young, when everyone else was outside playing, I was holed up in my bedroom, filling notebooks with tragic rhyming poems about horses dying in barn fires (“And sometimes in my dreams / I can still hear their screams”) and sentimental tales of blind orphans triumphing over adversity. Also, I’m spectacularly untalented at just about everything: I’m klutzy and bad with numbers and really frighteningly disorganized, and I’m the kind of person you feel sorry for when I try public speaking. It made the choice to be a writer an easy one.
Q: What other writers do you admire / who are your literary influences?
A: I like writers who play tug of war between humor and sorrow in their work, and I also appreciate a really excellent literary page-turner. So I love Michael Chabon and Lorrie Moore, Alice Munro, Graham Greene, William Trevor (especially The Story of Lucy Gault) and Ian McEwan (particularly Enduring Love and Atonement).
Q: The best friendship between Emily and Meg is one most women will recognize. Do you have a real life Meg?
A: I’m lucky to have more than one Meg in my life. I have several brilliant, beautiful, hilarious and kind friends whose affection I constantly aspire to deserve. They’re like editors of my daily life: they laugh at the good jokes, help me make sense of the complicated parts, and they tell me when I’m spouting nonsense. Meg is a composite of these women. More than one friend who has read the book has informed me that she knows she is Meg. One actually refers to herself as Meg. I just nod.
Q: What’s next for you?
A: I’m working on another novel. It’s about three close friends, two of whom are married to each other, and the messiness of friendship and betrayal.
From the Hardcover edition.
1. What does Emily's dream in the opening scene say about Emily's state of mind, and her marriage [pp. 3-4]? How effective is it as a prelude to the story that follows?
2. Emily and Meg joke that they want to start a girl group called 'N Secure. Emily suggests, “I'll be the drummer . . . but I'll just drum really quietly. And after every song we can kind of sidle up to the microphone and say, 'Was that okay?'” [p. 6]. How would you characterize Emily's sense of humor? What scenes or passages do you find most funny in the novel?
3. In her conversation with Meg about Meg's pregnancy, Emily is ashamed to admit that she is unsure she'll ever be ready to have a baby [p. 9]. Why is this something Emily feels guilty about?
4. Discuss the scene in the café when Emily meets David. Is agreeing to meet him for coffee okay, or not okay? Is Meg right in saying "there's a line, you know, and it seemed like you crossed it" [p. 15]? What does Meg mean by "a line," and do you agree that Emily crossed it? How much freedom can, or should, married women have in this kind of situation?
5. How sympathetic a character is Kevin? Does he come across as a solid, dependable man who loves his wife? Or as a conventional, controlling person who wants to push Emily into a life she doesn't want? Noticing his reading material, Sound Investments for the Careful Planner, Emily feels “a familiar pang of love for my steady, staid husband. He's like a brick wall you can lean against when you're tired-immobile, rutted with predictable grooves, always there” [p. 27]. What does this thought indicate about Emily's feelings toward Kevin?
6. Is Emily's friendship with Meg more important to her, in a sense, than her marriage to Kevin? What does the friendship suggest about women's bonds with each other as opposed to their bonds with their spouses?
7. Emily wonders whether her restlessness is caused by marriage itself: “Being married is like reading the same novel over and over again. You might discover new subtleties of language on the twenty-millionth read-through, a metaphor or two you'd missed before, but the plot is always the same. Kevin is in a bad mood, and there's nothing I can do about it: chapter six” [p. 81]. Is Emily right about the inherent problems in marriage? If so, should she allow herself, at least briefly, the excitement of getting to know David?
8. SPOILER ALERT: DO NOT READ QUESTIONS 8 THROUGH 11 AND 14-15 UNTIL YOU FINISH THE BOOK.
While the tone of the novel is mostly comic, events such as Meg's successive miscarriages and Emily's accidental pregnancy are evidence of a greater seriousness that is also important to the story. Meg and Emily are only thirty; does it seem as though they are having difficulty finding the maturity to handle what is happening in their lives?
9. Emily is overwhelmed by guilt when she acknowledges the seriousness of cheating on Kevin [pp. 228-29]. Realizing she may be pregnant, she thinks, “I'm not a good person; I'm not the Emily I thought I was” [p. 236]. How important is this realization, and what does it suggest about people's perceptions of themselves?
10. The dilemma of Emily's pregnancy is that she doesn't know whether the father is Kevin or David. How does this fact affect your experience of the story, and of Emily's character? Does her impulsive behavior with David-“propelled by a combination of longing and recklessness” -seem understandable, if unlucky, or on the other hand, does it seem self-destructive, as well as cruel to Kevin [p. 149]?
11. Why does Emily tell Kevin she's pregnant before she knows who the father is? It raises the question of whether there might have been some way of determining the child's paternity-a DNA test on the amniotic fluid perhaps-which would have allowed her to proceed with more certainty. Why do you think Fox chose not to pursue such a plotline?
12. Emily's mother tells her, “You married a kind, gentle, intelligent man who doesn't seem to place much value on the fine art of communication. Darling, you married your father. Perhaps you could have done better. But believe me, you could have done worse” [p. 158]. Why does this conversation enrage Emily?
13. Fox creates several scenes that center on Emily's parents, their suburban home and its décor, the food her mother prepares, etc. What is funny about Emily's family? Does she feel trapped by who her parents are? Does it seem that Emily regresses when she is around her family? Do most people tend to do so?
14. Her sister Heather is angry with her for revealing her pregnancy on the same night that Heather was planning to introduce her fiancé to her parents. Is Emily wrong in choosing this moment? What is Emily planning, or thinking, about her future at this point?
15. In what ways is the ending surprising? How disturbing is the idea that Emily is now completely on her own, and will soon be a single mother? What is the significance of Emily's visit to Jupiter's Palace of Cheese, first described on page 59?