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Staying on the Path of Sexual Purity

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On Sale: April 22, 2009
Pages: 160 | ISBN: 978-0-307-55117-7
Published by : WaterBrook Press Religion/Business/Forum
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Powerful ammunition for your war against sexual temptation.
As a man, you’re bombarded by sexual images and battle inner urges. You want to do right—in fact, you want to meet God’s standard of avoiding any hint of sexual immorality. But accomplishing that goal is a challenge.  

If you are a single man struggling to remain sexually pure, you are not alone—
there’s practical, hard-hitting help from the authors of the blockbuster Every Man Series. Every Single Man’s Battle guides you—or your men’s group—through an honest and clear exploration of God’s Word. You’ll undertake a personal journey into key scriptures, wrestle with questions for reflection and examination, and discover the practical tools and biblical strategies you need to live the pure life God calls you to—even while living in a sexually-soaked culture.

Make a frontal assault on the temptation every single man faces. This book provides all the resources you need.

Now includes the workbook!


Approaching our seaside table with a lovely new acquaintance from church, I (Steve) could hear the gentle lapping of waves on the shoreline as the magnificent amber-hued sunset arched over the Pacific Ocean. Maybe life’s not so bad after all, I mused as we were seated and handed leather-bound menus by the maître d’.

As we perused the elegant dining choices, my date and I engaged in meaningful small talk, sharing our hopes in raising our children and our dreams of how God would use us in the future. I gazed upon the sun as it dipped toward the horizon and felt swept up in the moment. For the first time in months, the pain of my divorce seemed light-years away, and my future—whatever it would be—looked as bright as that dazzling orb descending in the western sky.

One by one the delicious courses arrived with a flourish…a crisp, deep-fried calamari as the appetizer, followed by a sumptuous spinach salad with raspberry vinaigrette dressing, and then the main course of grilled salmon topped with hollandaise sauce. Fresh salmon heals every wound, Ichuckled to myself. Yet just as suddenly, my bite of airy tiramisu screeched to a jarring halt halfway down the hatch as my date purred demurely, “Steve, please don’t get the wrong impression of me… I’m not all God, motherhood, and apple pie, you know. I love the Bible with a deep passion, but I love the Kama Sutra with another kind of passion all my own,” she said, winking coyly. “I find the positions simply fascinating, and I’ve thrown my whole body and soul into reading my lessons. But what I really need is to get out onto the playing field once in a while for a little practice!”

I nearly spewed my dessert coffee all over the linen shrouded table. The only practice that was going to take place
was me practicing getting out of there. First, I managed to change the subject quickly, and then, a short time later, I
smiled softly and mumbled, “I really hate to run, but my food hasn’t settled very well this evening. Would you mind if we called it a night?”

Perhaps you’re scratching your head, wondering, What’s this Kama Sutra thing? Well, it’s all about sexual positions from an Eastern perspective, and books on the Kama Sutra have been a pretty hot topic out here on the Left Coast for quite some time. The publisher’s description on Amazon.com calls it this way:

Kama Sutra comes to us from fourth-century India.
Written by a holy man, this “love scripture” has
become known in the West as a “bible of sex.” As
such, Kama Sutra of Sexual Positions presents many
facets of sexual embrace from many cultures where
the sexual and the sacred together are the weaver of
the tapestry of life.

Perhaps now you’re gasping, How can a Christian single be equally committed to the Kama Sutra? I haven’t the  foggiest idea of how to answer that, but what I do know is that as I reentered the Christian single world, I was quite amazed to find two extremely common disconnections out there. My Kama Sutra story is a prime example of the first one—a disconnection from God’s ways.

I’ve met many committed Christian singles whose faith seems to be integrated into their lives, who take a biblical approach to their work, their money, their children, whatever. But when it comes to sex, they’ve convinced themselves that sex is the exception to every biblical rule. They think like this:

• God understands my sexuality—He knows my needs.
• Sex is just something that naturally happens between two adults who are deeply involved.
• I know it is wrong to have sex with a married woman, but when it comes to sex between two singles, I just don’t think the Bible is so cut and dried.
• Anything short of sexual intercourse is okay.
• I know premarital sex is wrong, but so what? God will forgive me—it’s under the blood!
• God knows that I was married. He knows I’m so used to sex that I just have to have it now.

Such rationalizations are a deep mystery to me. After all, a rational mind—the mind of Christ—is normal for Christians.
A rational mind keeps us safely beneath God’s wings of protection and blessing. But a rationalized mind seems so jarring and abnormal in a Christian, and it rips a jagged breech in our sexual defense perimeters.

Look, it’s time for some straight talk. As men we have an obvious vulnerability in our sexual makeup, and that’s the ability of our eyes and our mind to draw vivid sexual gratification from the sensuality in the environment around us. To put it bluntly, our eyes and mind are capable of intense foreplay…we can look and lust until our engines run so far into the red zone that we may think we’d better masturbate or we’ll explode. If we want to be sexually pure, we have but one choice—we either defend against such weak spots in our sexuality or we will fall to every whim of the Enemy and our flesh.
Stephen Arterburn|Fred Stoeker

About Stephen Arterburn

Stephen Arterburn - Every Single Man's Battle
Stephen Arterburn is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries–the nation's largest faith-based broadcast, counseling and treatment ministry–and is the host of the nationally syndicated "New Life Live!" daily radio program heard on over 180 radio stations nationwide. Steve is also the founder of the Women of Faith conferences attended by over 3,000,000 women.

Steve is a nationally known public speaker and has been featured in national media venues such as Oprah, Inside Edition, Good Morning America, CNN Live, New York Times, USA Today and US News & World Report.

As a best-selling author, Steve has written over 80 books, including the bestselling Every Man's series. He has been nominated for numerous writing awards and won three Gold Medallion awards for writing excellence.

Steve has degrees from Baylor University and The University of North Texas as well as having obtained two honorary doctorate degrees.

Steve resides with his family in Laguna Beach, California.

About Fred Stoeker

Fred Stoeker - Every Single Man's Battle
Facing a moment of truth regarding his sexual purity a couple years after his wedding in 1981, Fred Stoeker is well aware of the battle men face with sexual sin. After stumbling upon his father's Playboy magazine under his Dad's bed in first grade, Fred struggled with pornographic materials for the next twenty years or so. Despite entering a committed relationship with Jesus Christ at age 23, Fred continued to struggle with pornography until his wedding the following year. He quickly found that marriage did not eliminate the problem and the negative effects of his sexual sin upon his intimacy with God and with his wife Brenda grew more each year.

While Fred had graduated from Stanford University with a BA with Honors and had begun a successful sales and consulting business in Des Moines, IA, his marriage was struggling, as well as his feelings of personal integrity. Embarking on a study of Christian literature on marriage as well as reviewing his studies on Human Sexuality at Stanford, Fred began to search for answers to his problems. Daily Bible study allowed the word of God to wash him clean and to begin to transform his mind, and before long, God had used Job 31:1 and Luke 6:46 to begin to break the stranglehold that sexual sin had over his life.

Through the years, Fred watched for a Christian book to be written that would convey the practical knowledge that the Holy Spirit had taught him during his battle for sexual purity. He knew such a book was necessary, because he'd been teaching these practical principles over the years and had seen the impact they had in the lives of men in his city. Imagine his surprise when God tapped Fred himself to write that practical book he'd been watching for. Just as God had promised Fred during prayer, God took this practical message all over the world through the best-selling books Every Man's Battle and Every Young Man's Battle.

Fred's marriage to Brenda now spans almost thirty years in the Des Moines area and has been blessed by the birth of two sons and two daughters. Currently, Fred is a bestselling author of several books, including Hero, Every Young Man's Battle and Tactics, the president of Living True Ministries, and a popular conference speaker who challenges men to become sexually pure, to reconnect in true intimate relationship with their wives, and to train their sons to become godly men.


Praise for Every Man’s Battle and Every Young Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, andMike Yorkey

“There is no more common enemy of true manhood than the diversion or the perversion of our sexual capacities. I welcome every contribution to the arsenal of resistance.”
—JACKW. HAYFORD, LITTD, founding pastor of the Church on theWay and chancellor of The King’s University

“This book will revolutionize the marriage of every man who reads it. Why? Because every man battles sexual temptations and every marriage grows stronger when these temptations are defeated. The vulnerable, honest, and insightful pages of this book reveal what every man must know.”
—DRS. LES AND LESLIE PARROTT, authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

“This timely resource presents clear practical principles for sexual purity. Arterburn and Stoeker call for courage, commitment, and self-discipline as they lead men into a more successful relationship with God, family, and spouse. This book is truly for every man.”
—DR. JOHN C. MAXWELL, founder of EQUIP

“God has used Steve Arterburn countless times to impact my heart and life; I am thankful for him and his investment in Every Man’s Battle. I am also grateful for Fred Stoeker. Fred pours himself into this book with honesty, vulnerability, and a practical strategy to fight the good fight. He offers biblical truth and hope to anyone with ears to hear how to battle the war of sexual temptation. Read with an open heart—Every Man’s Battle may save your marriage and your witness.”
—DR. GARY ROSBERG, president of America’s Family Coaches and coauthor of Guard Your Heart and The Five Love Needs of Men and Women

Every Young Man’s Battle does the best job I have ever seen on the subject of sexual temptation. Once upon a time we lived in a world that didn’t talk about secrets, and that world has brought us to the mess we are in today. Young men must have an honest, blunt, and unashamedly Christian look at their sexuality. This book will save thousands of future marriages.”
—JIM BURNS, president of HomeWord

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