Are mothers jealous of their developing daughters? Is an early mother-child bond severed during adolescence and never formed again? What does adolescence feel like to a girl?
Drawing on detailed interviews with mothers and daughters from Terri Apter's research in Great Britain and America, and from recent psychological studies of family interaction, Altered Loves is a frank, moving, and insightful examination of this crucial time in a woman's life. Apter shows that contrary to the classical view of adolescence as a stage in which daughters reject their mothers, adolescent daughters often remain strongly attached to them. The strife that characterizes this period is actually the result of trying to renegotiate a valued relationship.
Beautifully written, Altered Loves explodes conventional myths and theories about mother-daughter relationships and offers new and valuable insights that will help mothers remember and daughters understand the delicate, painful, and complex process of becoming a woman.
About Terri Apter
Terri Apter, Ph.D., is a writer and researcher on girls' development and women's psychology. She received her Ph.D. from the University of Cambridge, where she is now a Fellow of Clare Hall. Her book Altered Loves: Mothers and Daughters During Adolescence became a New York Times Notable Book of the Year. She appears regularly on BBC radio as Radio Cambridgeshire's "resident psychologist. Terri is married and has two teenage daughters.
Ruthellen Josselson, Ph.D., is a practicing psychotherapist who has been on the faculties of the Harvard Graduate School of Education, Towson University, the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, and the Fielding Institute. She has received the American Psychological Association Henry A. Murray Award and a Fulbright Fellowship. She is the author of several books, including Revising Herself: The Story of Women's Identity from College to Midlife. Ruthellen is married, and her daughter, Jaimie Baron, collaborated on Best Friends.
"An extraordinary book that speaks subtly and with great originality to the intricate dynamics of mother-daughter relationships during adolescence. I can't think of a better book for professionals or parents who wish to understand these matters."
-- Nancy J. Chodorow
Author of Femininities, Masculinities, Sexualities: Freud & Beyond
"Her eloquent message is reassuring to battle-weary veterans on both sides: peace is possible."
Terri Apter is a Research Fellow at Clare Hall, Cambridge. She is the author of Why Women Don't Have Wives: Professional Success and Motherhood. She lives with her husband and two teenage daughters in Cambridge, England.