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Moving Forward When Life Doesn't Go as Planned

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On Sale: June 21, 2011
Pages: 240 | ISBN: 978-0-307-72977-4
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Has the unexpected knocked you off course? You lost your job to the latest round of layoffs. A relationship you thought would last forever, didn’t. A health challenge is disrupting your life. Life doesn’t always go according to plan, but with the right attitude and skills, you can persevere through even the toughest situations—and emerge stronger and better than ever.
 
Resilience to Get Through Any Challenge
 
In Where Will You Go from Here? Valorie Burton helps you navigate life’s obstacles and unexpected challenges. You’ll find all the tools you need to be resilient in the face of setbacks, now and in the future, including:
 
·   The Five Commitments that propel every successful comeback
·   Step-by-step guidance for restructuring your life
·   Strategies to unearth the courage you need for any situation
·   In-the-heat-of-the-moment words to combat negative thinking
·   Practical exercises to become better, not bitter, as a result of adversity
 
Packed with uplifting insights and powerful principles, this personal coaching resource offers the wisdom and  encouragement you need to think differently about your circumstances and take hold of the lessons God is offering you. As you experience the “post-traumatic growth” that comes only through adversity, you’ll be equipped to unleash a stronger, more authentic you.

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This Isn’t the Way You Planned It
When Your World Turns Upside Down

Life has a way of taking us by surprise. One day everything seems fine. You’re making progress toward your professional and financial goals, you’re finally getting in shape, you and your spouse are making plans for the future, and bam, you’re knocked senseless by some unexpected development. Suddenly everything you believed to be true about your life is in question. You’re disoriented. You’re scared. And you may feel as if you’ve landed in a foreign, lonely place.

My guess is you picked up this book because you know exactly what I’m talking about. Some unexpected turn in your life story has left you not only deeply disappointed but also unsure of what do to next. So my goal is to help you answer this vital question: where will you go from here? Whatever has sent your life plans careening off course—an unplanned career change, the death of a marriage, a health crisis, or something else altogether—I’ve written this book with your unique emotions, challenges, and destiny in mind.

As a personal and executive coach, I have worked with many clients around the world, and one thing I know for sure: when you ask the right questions, you get the right answers. The answers you are looking for will require you to be honest, open, and courageous—courageous enough to rise to the challenges you face despite your fears. I believe you can do it.

And I will walk with you every step of the way—from helping you assess where you are now to encouraging you to confidently step onto your new path and to pay it forward by serving others with your newfound wisdom.

In the following pages you’ll encounter people who, like you, have smacked up against painful and unexpected challenges, yet they’ve found a way to not only recover from their setbacks but actually press through adversity to find a better path for their lives:

• Roland was on track in his career when he suddenly lost his job. From there life became a downward spiral: divorce,
medical emergency, and bankruptcy fell like dominoes over the next two years. In his own words, he’ll share how he
made a seemingly impossible comeback. Better yet, he tells how his setbacks propelled him to higher heights than he’s ever reached before.

• Jacqueline was a twenty-eight-year-old mom, recently separated, when she was blindsided by a devastating seizure
that changed the course of her life, as well as her daughter’s. Her dark, lonely journey to recovery lasted more than a
decade—but it yields powerful inspiration for your own journey as you discover how the setback that almost ended her life ultimately saved her.

• Claire was a successful forty-something woman earning a six-figure salary when she met and married the man of her
dreams—or so she thought. In the span of a year, she lost her life savings, her marriage, and her mother. How could
she navigate it all—and even recover from her losses—without becoming bitter or overwhelmed? The answer is one all of us need to hear.

• Kevin was an all-star athlete whose athletic abilities landed him a full-ride scholarship to college. But shortly after his
arrival on campus, a devastating accident left him paralyzed. So how is it possible that he could confidently pursue—and achieve—the full and satisfying life he’d always dreamed of ? The unforgettable story of Kevin’s resilience will give
you renewed hope for your future.

What does your own setback look like? Whatever it is you have experienced, I’m sure of two things:

1. Right now your life isn’t the way you planned it.

2. You have the inner strength to get through this—and to grow through this.

How can I be so sure? Not only have I coached numerous others onto their own path to recovery, I have also personally learned from my own setbacks that all things truly do work together for good—when we walk on in faith.

My Story

As a personal and executive coach, people often come to me for a life makeover. But at times I’ve had to coach myself through my own makeover—forging into new territory, allowing my authentic self to emerge, and embracing
frightening uncertainty with hope and faith. I understand what it feels like to have your world turned upside down and your dreams crushed, to be headed down a path toward the future you’ve long planned—and find yourself knocked completely off that path. This isn’t the way I planned it, I thought to myself as I reached for my third box of tissues, my eyes red, nose stuffy, and face puffy. I stood bent over the kitchen counter, sobbing in desperation. So used to feeling in control of my life, I was suddenly and completely not in control.

This can’t be happening to me, I thought. This can’t be the end. But in my spirit, I knew it was. As that reality sunk in, my sobs turned into wails—uncontrollable and loud. If you’d been in the room, you would have recognized the unmistakable sound of grief that accompanies death. In this case I was mourning the death of my marriage. Reality overwhelmed me in wave after wave of sadness and uncertainty. I felt betrayed and fearful.

I knew what I had to do. But when you find yourself lying on a bed of thorns, remaining as still as possible seems less painful than attempting to extricate yourself.

As I sunk into utter misery, I was suddenly consumed by the fear that I might be having some sort of breakdown. I needed someone to hear me, to validate my despair. I picked up the phone and called my mother. She knew what I was going through, but she had never heard me like this. I couldn’t get any words out, just sobs and gasps for air.

“Valorie?” she said anxiously. “What’s wrong? What happened?”

“I can’t stop crying,” I finally muttered. “I feel like I’m going crazy. I feel like I’m losing my mind.”

If I expected commiseration and comfort, I was in for a surprise.

However, I should have known that my mother—a woman who has recovered from serious physical, financial, and family setbacks—wouldn’t let me wallow in my misery. Looking back now, the situation reminds me of a scene in one of those old black-and-white movies where a panicked woman (that would be me) starts sputtering nonsense, her words coming faster and faster until finally someone (that would be my mom) slaps her across the face to bring her back to reality.

“You’re not going crazy!” she declared. “You’re human and you’re in pain. Life and death are in the power of the tongue. The enemy wants you to say you’re losing your mind. You’re not. Now go into the bathroom,” she said firmly. “Wash your face, and then go take a walk. It’s a pretty day outside. Call me when you come back.”

My mother’s jarring words rang with truth. After some deep breaths, I felt just a glimmer of hope—a sudden uplifting of my soul. Sometimes, a glimmer of hope is all you need to take that next step forward. That step, for me, was a simple declaration: “This will not destroy me. I believe God, and in the Word He says He is with me wherever I go. So I will walk through this fire, but it will not consume me. It will not. On the other side of this, I will be a better and stronger woman.”

Your Recovery Begins Today

That day my mother reminded me of an important lesson—our first guiding principle for facing a setback: “I will not feel sorry for myself.” I had been knocked out, but her words were my wake-up call. Of course, it wasn’t the last time I cried, but I never again cried from that woe-is-me place. In that pivotal moment, I chose faith over fear.

Today I want to help you make the same choice and embark on your own road to a better tomorrow.

It may be hard to believe now, but I’m convinced that on the other side of your difficult circumstances, something good is waiting, something better than you’ve previously thought or imagined. But to find it, you’ll have to surrender your will and allow God’s strength and grace to guide you.

Hebrews 11:1 says, “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” (nkjv). This truth gives you something to fiercely cling to when a setback pushes a dream so far out of reach that you start to lose hope. To the outside world, your hope may seem delusional. But that’s when faith is most critical. That’s when you are called to believe in the things “not seen.” That’s when you must choose to trust God to give you the desires of your heart, in His timing—or to turn your desires toward something ultimately better.

God may restore everything you have lost—or He may open your eyes to a new life, one filled with greater purpose and fulfillment than you can imagine at this moment. Our definition of success often differs greatly from His. If you’re willing to let God realign your life to match His definition of success, you’ll be able to view your setback not as a disappointment or failure but as a positive part of His plan to mold you and shape you according to His perfect design.

Tempered by Trials

Successfully recovering from a setback is not just about restoring the externals you may have lost—such as the job, the money, the physical ability, or the relationship—or just regaining your footing on the path to your goals. It also involves strengthening your inner resilience.

The essence of resilience is your ability to effectively navigate adversity and courageously face whatever life throws your way. Though you may be bruised and battered by challenges, your spirit still soars. In fact, you choose to believe that you can become a better, richer person because of your experience.

You may be familiar with tempered steel or tempered glass—elements made stronger by repeated exposure to heat and cold. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary cites one definition of temper as “to make stronger and more resilient through hardship.”1 This is the opportunity your current setback offers: to have your character strengthened by the heat of battle so you emerge not only victorious but also forever changed for the better.

You may feel as if you’re just hanging on right now, trying to survive. But I want you to do more than survive. My goal is to help you eventually thrive. So this book has two parallel goals: first, to help you rebuild the aspects of your external world that have crumbled, and second, to help you gain the tools you need to not only navigate current setbacks but also to deal effectively with future surprises—because we know that change is the one constant in life on a broken planet.

Despite our best plans, earnest preparation, and good intentions, the truth is we don’t have as much control of our lives as we like to think we do. You will inevitably face other challenges in the future, so why not embrace the opportunity now to gain skills that will help you recover more quickly next time? If you can grow through this difficult
season, expanding your character, faith, and wisdom, then the journey you are on right now may just be one of the most important turning points of your life.

The Journey Matters as Much as the Destination

A central theme in this book is embracing the process, not just the destination. Please don’t rush through each chapter in an effort to get answers. Instead, let the words speak to you, prompting insight and reflection, transformation and hope.

We’ll begin the journey together, right where you are—in the ditch of uncertainty, reeling from whatever unexpected shift has taken place in your life. Then step by step, as the pages turn, I’ll help you get your bearings, determine your next steps, and begin walking a path toward a positive future.

The principles outlined in this book are rooted in solid biblical principles and proven research in the field of positive psychology. While traditional psychology, especially since World War II, has focused primarily on fixing what’s wrong with people (a crucially important endeavor), positive psychology focuses on what goes right with people. What is it
that makes us happier? more resilient? more fulfilled? Recent discoveries in this area offer some compelling and extremely practical advice for how to navigate major life challenges and come out on the other side a happier and wiser person.

In my own graduate studies at the University of Pennsylvania, I was excited to discover that so much scientific research aligns with the ancient wisdom of the Bible. I used these strategies to navigate the unexpected turns in my own life; and in each chapter, I will give you practical steps to craft your personal comeback out of unwelcome  circumstances, whether your challenge is in the area of finances, work, relationships, health—or has impacted multiple aspects of your life.

Each chapter includes further guidance in the form of coaching exercises to increase your confidence, help you draw on your strengths, and deliberately propel you toward progress. Please don’t skip these exercises! Only through deliberate, thoughtful action will you generate real change in your perspective and your circumstances.

In addition, all along the way you’ll be inspired by real-life stories of resilience. You’ll hear from people who have been paralyzed, lost their jobs, been forced into bankruptcy, endured painful divorces, lost their homes and hundreds of thousands of dollars, endured the death of a spouse or child or both—and yet somehow not only survived but eventually thrived. They were able to move forward—and to discover the fulfilling life God had planned for them.

As I spoke with these individuals who have endured so much with tenacity and faith, I gained perspective on my own setback. In fact, I began to view my own experience less as a setback and more as an opportunity to learn and grow. I realized that my life experience had taken me to emotional and spiritual depths I would never have reached other-
wise. Would I have chosen to go through it? No. Am I a better person because I persevered and bounced back? Absolutely.

My sincere hope is that, one day, you’ll be able look back and say the same of your own experience. I’m planting the seed of hope because I know this to be true: “All things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28, nkjv).

Don’t try to figure out how it’s going to “work together” just yet. Simply believe that it will and let God guide you forward, step by step.
Valorie Burton

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Valorie Burton is a personal life coach and motivational speaker, and the author of Listen to Your Life, What's Really Holding You Back, Why Not You? and Rich Minds, Rich Rewards. She has served clients in more than thirty states and seven countries and appeared widely in the national media. Visit her at www.valorieburton.com.
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“Valorie Burton navigates us through the maze of life’s uncertainty with the skill of a GPS system placing us back on course. For those who refuse to live the rest of their lives stuck on the side of the road, this book gives guidance!”
—Bishop T. D. Jakes, New York Times best-selling author, founder and senior pastor of The Potter’s House

 “This compelling book offers a hands-on approach to recovering—and thriving—after crisis. Valorie Burton provides well-researched solutions, practical help, and many examples of real people who have faced dark times of adversity and come out on the other end stronger for it. In these pages, readers will find hope and answers for how to progress from a place of pain and setback to hope and abundant life.”
—Shaunti Feldhahn, best-selling author of For Women Only

“If you are in that ‘what now?’ place in your life, this is the book for you—filled with practical steps and profound principles to jump-start your comeback, but even more important, you’re repositioning for new levels of victory in your life. Valorie Burton speaks from experience as well as learned wisdom and offers the tools you need to master your life and get the results you desire.”
—Michelle McKinney Hammond, author of How to Make Life Work

“I’ve never seen such a clear road map to full recovery as Valorie Burton has so vividly drawn in this phenomenal book. She doesn’t just help you arrive at a better destination; she inspires you to savor the journey every step of the way. I’ll be using Where Will You Go from Here? with many of my coaching clients!”
—Shannon Ethridge, M.A., certified life coach, international speaker, and best-selling author of Every Woman’s Battle

 “In Where Will You Go from Here? my friend Valorie Burton offers a clear, concise, and manageable plan for dealing with the curve balls that life throws at you. If you open your mind to receive what she has laid out, you will be much more prepared to make the right choices at the right time.”
—Roland S. Martin, host/managing editor of Washington Watch (TV One cable network) and analyst for CNN and the Tom Joyner Morning Show

 “In her book Where Will You Go from Here? Valorie Burton has provided us with the perfect map for those times when we feel traumatized and can’t see the road in front of us. I am excited she has put her words of wisdom on paper. If an unexpected challenge has brought your life to a screeching halt, Valorie will help get you moving again!”
—Chonda Pierce, comedienne, author, and recording artist
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