Rules of the Road
This is a planet where we reap what we sow. By knowing what we want to harvest in our lives (the dreams we want to see come true) and by planting the seeds at the appropriate time, we can manifest the dreams of our heart. This book teaches you how to determine the most powerful timing for making wishes using the magic released during potent astrological cycles. By looking up the New Moon for each month, you will be able to see the exact date and time, as well as the sign it’s in (see the “What to Wish for When the New Moon Is in Each Sign” section, page 47). New Moon tables through the year 2050 begin on page 35.
Wishes don’t always come to full fruition in the approximate twenty-nine-and-a-half-day cycle between New Moons, but once the seeds are planted, they will come true in the months ahead. Experience has shown me that wishes can be made up to forty-eight hours after the exact time of the New Moon; however, the most potent time is within the first eight hours.
DO write down your wish list within eight hours following the exact time of the New Moon, whenever possible.
For New Moon Power Wishes to come true they must be handwritten on paper, not typed on a typewriter or a computer. I have no idea why this is important, but years of experience with wishes have shown me what does and doesn’t work.
The wording of the wishes is also very important — they must be clearly stated so that the “feeling” behind the wishes comes though the words. Use your intuition. If, after you have written a wish, it feels “right” to you and evokes feelings of harmony and happiness, your wish is “on target.” However, if it doesn’t “feel right,” I would suggest changing the wording or even waiting until a different time to make that particular wish.
You may make a maximum of ten wishes on each Power Day. You may make less than ten, but it is important not to exceed this number, as it would disperse the energy too much for your individual wishes to have the power they need to come true. The more wishes, the more dispersed the energy becomes. It is, however, important to make more than one wish to activate the energy of the day, even if your second and third wishes involve the same issue. Perhaps the most potent method is to make several wishes in one or two areas where you want to see some major shifts and progress, approaching each issue from several different directions (see the “Ongoing Wishes” section for more explanation, page 213).
As the energy of each month changes, and as your own life progresses and your areas of focus change, you may find that on some Power Days you are inclined to focus on shifting one or two areas very strongly. In other months it may seem more appropriate to wish for changes and improvement in diverse areas of your life.
Another important factor is to use every New Moon Power Day to make wishes. Depending on your individual astrology chart, some Power Days will be extremely potent for you personally, and others will operate to a lesser extent. This is because your specific astrology chart isn’t mathematically duplicated for over twenty-five thousand years, due to the planets’ traveling at different speeds around the Sun. Sometimes, due to the changing planetary alignment, the monthly Moon cycle will more vigorously trigger your individual wiring than at other times. Therefore, it is critical to use every Power Day, so as not to miss those that are the most powerful for you.
Clients often ask me what to do with their wish lists after writing them down, and I tell them to do whatever they like, short of throwing them away. I have one client who puts her wish list under her mattress — I don’t know why, but if it feels right to her, it can’t hurt. Wishes don’t operate like affirmations, so after you’ve written them down you never have to see the list again — the outcome will still occur. But some people like to read their wish lists every morning. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable.
Personally, at the end of each Power Period I date my list and put it away and don’t look at it again unless a series of things begins to unfold that seems strange to me (“What’s that all about? That’s not a normal pattern in my life...”), and then I’ll go back to my wish list and realize: “Aha! That had to happen in order for wish number eight to come true!” You don’t have to do anything special with your list for your wishes to come true, but don’t resist the new you that begins to emerge and express itself in response to the wishes you have made!
DO write your wishes down by hand each month. DO NOT write more than ten wishes on any one Power Day. DO write more than one wish on each Power Day. DO date and keep your wish lists.
On each of the New Moon days listed, not only do you have the power to make wishes that will come true in the days or months ahead, but also the wisdom to make “proper” wishes: wishes that, when they come true, will bring you true joy. So pay attention to your inner feelings and trust them. After writing down each wish, check to see how you feel inside. If you feel happy and peaceful, then you’re on the right track. If you feel troubled or uncertain, it would be best to erase that wish until a later time.
The ideas that come to you on these days will not be based on linear thinking, the past, your subconscious, or what others say you should have in order to be happy. The Angels hover close to the Earth during these time periods, and if you listen to your intuitive feelings with an open and innocent mind, on this day ideas about what will truly make you happy will come to you. It’s an extraordinary day!
DO trust yourself in writing down those wishes that truly make you feel harmonious on the exact day of the New Moon.
The Role of Destiny
All wishes, when made repeatedly over an extended period of time, will come true — unless a wish is in direct conflict with your destiny. What you yearn for in your heart IS your destiny and worthy of pursuit. If a wish blatantly doesn’t come true, then it may be because it was a wish that didn’t take into account the good of everyone involved, perhaps including your own best overall interests.
The impulse to ardently wish for something that goes against one’s destiny is extremely rare, and I have seen it occur only one time. I had a client who was writing a book on working with juveniles to increase their self-confidence in saying no to drugs. The book was an outgrowth of a successful program he had developed in the local schools. We made wishes together on a very potent Power Day: that the book be published by a reputable publisher, that it receive national acclaim, and that it lead to seminars and public-speaking opportunities for him to promote his ideas. All of the wishes came true; his ideas for helping kids spread into other school systems and he became a public figure in his field. This client, who was initially a skeptic, became an ardent believer in the power of wishing!
The same man returned to me some months later for wishes involving a new book he wanted to write on male-female relationships. This time his motive was different — now he wanted to be famous with the general public, become rich, and be on national talk shows. We made all of the appropriate wishes, and this time none of it came true. Perhaps a different slant would have been more productive: i.e., that he be filled with right ideas about male/female relationships that would truly benefit others and effectively answer a public need. Or perhaps the book itself went against his destiny.
As it happened, he was called to help reorganize a rape prevention program, which was a huge success and had a major impact. He is currently developing a national training program for therapists on treating domestic violence, and again, his work is being hailed and he is influencing a large number of people in a very crucial area. Perhaps in the universal scheme of things, his talents were needed in this specific area and the book on relationships would have kept him from doing this important work.
DO trust your own process. The Universe wants you to be happy. If a wish doesn’t come true immediately, keep repeating it, or watch to see what unexpected benefit comes in its place.
Wishes Involving Others
You can’t make wishes that will affect the behavior or self-determination of another — experience has shown me that it simply doesn’t work. However, you can make wishes for changes in your own behavior relative to that person that will open the way for a change in them. For example, wishes like: “I want Steve to fall in love with me” are not likely to come true. However, you can say: “I want to easily find myself saying the right words to Steve that evoke feelings of love in our relationship”; or “I want total clarity in my relationship with Steve, leading to my taking those steps that result in a happy, loving relationship”; or “I want all inner resistance to experiencing happiness and love in my relationship with Steve easily lifted from me.”
If the other person is unavailable due to an involvement in another relationship, then it would be more appropriate to take a deeper look at what it is you actually want, rather than limiting your focus to that particular person. Are you looking for a romance, a life partner, a marriage? Are you looking for a person you are intensely attracted to for a fling ... or for the purposes of building a stable family base? Once you are clear about what it is you would actually like to experience, then you can make wishes drawing a person to you who is available and wants the same kind of relationship. For example: “I want to easily attract, recognize, and begin a happy, healthy romantic relationship with the right man (woman) for me”; or “I want to easily attract the right marriage partner for me, someone who also wants a home and children, with whom I can build a stable, happy relationship.” (For more wishes dealing with romance and marriage, see the sample wishes in the “Ongoing Wishes” section, pages 279 and 259).
If you want to make wishes pertaining to a child or a family member whom you want to help, the rule remains the same. Regardless of how altruistic your motive, it doesn’t work to make wishes for other people. However, you can make wishes to alter your own behavior in order to affect in a positive way the person you are concerned about. For example, the wish “I want Johnny to do his homework and get good grades” will not work. But the wishes “I want to easily find myself saying the right words to Johnny that result in his doing his homework and improving his grades in a happy way,” or “I want total clarity, correctly seeing how I can best support Johnny in getting better grades,” will work because they are wishes for altering your own behavior and perspective.
The wishes “I want my children to be happy” or “I want my daughter’s marriage to improve” will not work. Instead make wishes like “I want to easily find myself saying the right words to my children that help to increase their happiness”; or “I want to be an open channel, providing fresh, workable ideas to my daughter that will help her improve her marriage”; or “I want right ideas to occur to me to share with my daughter that will result in her improving her marriage.”
If you are interested in helping a loved one with their health, you might make wishes like “I want to easily find myself being a channel through which information is provided that will help Betty with her health”; or “I want to act as a vehicle for healing energy for my son, Kenneth.” The idea is to open yourself to be a channel for the goodness you seek for others.
DO NOT make wishes for other people. It won’t work.
DO make wishes shifting YOUR approach to other people whom you want to influence.
Spring Equinox Treasure Maps
Another exciting way to use the power of astrological timing to help make our wishes come true was pioneered by fellow astrologer Buzz Meyers. His idea was to use the visual potency of a Treasure Map (a collage) in combination with the Spring Equinox — the first day of Spring — a traditional time of new beginnings! Use the time of the New Moon following the Spring Equinox for creating your Map. You can determine that special day each year by locating the date of the New Moon in Aries (New Moon tables are on pages 35-45.
For your Treasure Map, you will need to have the following materials ready in advance: magazines containing pictures of the kinds of events or experiences you would like to have in your life; scissors; glue sticks (paste or rubber cement); and a poster board (the standard 22” x 28” is recommended). Have your materials ready, but for maximum success, the process of creating your Treasure Map (including the selection of the pictures) must not begin until the New Moon in Aries actually occurs.
At the appropriate time, leaf through the magazines and cut out all pictures, photos, or headlines that attract you and set them aside. When you are ready, begin to paste the images and headlines onto the poster board. There are no “rules” for how your Map should be laid out, only that it be filled with images and headlines that feel happy to you and are in alignment with what you would like to manifest in the year ahead. You may find it natural to put different areas of life on different parts of the board. For example: the pictures of what you would like to occur in your love life on the upper left section; your work desires on the upper right corner, etc. OR, you may prefer to paste the images in a less structured, more flowing way on your Map. Let your subconscious mind, your intuition, and your heart guide you.
As you are creating your Treasure Map, it’s fine to return to the magazines for more images or headlines. In the moment of creative choice, you may find you select images that you hadn’t anticipated as particularly important to you. Of course, the dreams you have wanted for a long time should also be represented on your Map. Feel free to type out your own headlines or draw your own images on your Treasure Map.
Excerpted from New Moon Astrology by Jan Spiller. Copyright © 2001 by Jan Spiller. Excerpted by permission of Bantam, a division of Random House LLC. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.