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The Journey into a More Intimate Faith

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Fall in love with Jesus–again, and again, and again

Through ten illuminating encounters, walk into Jesus’ life, love and delight! Laugh, grow, and rest in Christ’s presence as you share these vivid meetings with the One who loves you more than life itself. With humor and spiritual depth, Jane Rubietta passionately draws you into the hope of a freeing relationship with Christ–freedom from false expectations into the brilliance of being fully loved.

Let Jesus delight in you.

Leave your hurry-worry path.Take Jesus’ hand and Come Along on a journey into intimacy, hope, and passion. Exchange your worn-out, must-do faith for real radiance. Solid biblical teaching, heart-rending stories and sound application in each chapter make Come Along a vital companion for personal, small group, and Bible study use.


Something was out of sync. I was getting more in touch with Jesus, knowing his heart, loving him more, feeling the energy that comes from staying close to him. I felt alive and bouncy and bright, like an Easter dress.

But along came work. And more work. And family stuff. And I started short changing my sleep, fretting a bit more. Grumpiness appeared. Or at any rate, the smiles disappeared. I felt like an old penny, its shine long destroyed. I started to look like the man on the penny too. (No, just kidding. I don’t have a beard. Yet.)

And then my birthday rolled around. I hate it when my birthday comes and I’m feeling poor and cheap and sorry for myself, because then I don’t want anyone to buy me anything. But this year, I wanted to really mean it when I said to friends and family, “You are my birthday gift, the very best gift possible.” I do mean that…but I also like toys: a sparkly top, a pair of glitzy earrings, perfume, dark chocolate. Girl stuff.

The heat index was stupidly high for June, and we decided to have my little birthday gathering in the only air-conditioned room in the house, our former garage. Believing to some extent in the motto “Fake it until you make it,” I mustered up some pseudo good attitude, hauled tables and chairs, carried the silver and plates and glasses and pitchers of water and all the other accoutrements for a celebration meal down the stairs. I swatted
mosquitoes and snipped flowers for low arrangements from our straggly, struggling gardens, then, as this was a combo birthday– Father’s Day celebration, ran upstairs to wrap a few presents for the two fathers in the crowd.

Flopping onto the floor, with my legs spread out, I boxed the gifts.My mood sank lower than my knees, and I wanted to bawl. Hormones? Maybe. Lack of sleep? Maybe. Deadlines? Maybe. Problems with my soul? Definitely.

No wonder my soul was in trouble. In order to make it through the days, and nights, I had shifted gears into autopilot and ceased to truly encounter Jesus.Not only had I forgotten how to come closer to Jesus, the results showed on my face. I had stopped shining.

I’d begun to resemble the Grim Reaper in daily life.

And that afternoon, as I sat on the floor, needing to wrap gifts though I had kindly ordered everyone not to give me any presents, my heart felt crumbly, like old newspapers in the attic or last month’s bread.

I shifted to my knees, put my face on the floor, and cried, “God, I do not want to live a lie. God, I want to be radiant with your love, I want others to see your light shining out of me, like I swallowed sunshine.” And then, “Come alongside me, Jesus. Help me to encounter you, daily, minute by minute. I cannot live this life without your presence.”

Finding rays of hope every day

It seems so obvious: if the Christian life isn’t about encountering Christ more deeply, we’re getting the wrong message. So why do we make the Christian life so complicated, trying to fill in the chasm between hope and actuality with a new, improved Bible, or Bible study, or Scripture-reading plan, or method of prayer? We don’t need a new Scripture software program for our computer. We don’t need a new memory plan. We don’t need to know the original language. Don’t misunderstand: these are all good things. But what we really need, deep down, is to tuck in alongside Jesus. He simply holds out a hand and says, “Come along. Come with me on another adventure. Let me come along with you! Hold on to me, learn from me. My yoke is gentle, my burden light.”

As we experience Christ more fully throughout the day, the results show on our faces. We are transformed from “glory to glory,” as the Scriptures say (2 Corinthians 3:18, NASB).

Come Along is an invitation into that glory—a free, fuller, more intimate relationship with Jesus. It’s about how, after that birthday, as I’ve held more tightly to Christ’s hand and chosen to look for him in relationships and situations, troubles and joys— I feel different. Lighter. Brighter. I smile more. Carry less. Oh, I still battle thundercloud face, still wrestle with the darkness, with lack of joy. But since last summer, I began to dig into New Testament stories of Jesus and meet him in a brand-new way. These are some delightful interactions with Jesus as I’ve never known him before.

Come along with me and see. Let him take your hand and walk you through the hills and sands of Israel, down crowded streets and into interactions that will make your heart sing. Along the way, you’ll recognize a deep desire to be safe. And deeper even than that is the deepest of all longings: the longing for a love that will never leave us, for a Lover who will love us perfectly. We find that love in Jesus, only in Jesus, and when we are loved, safe, we are changed.We become more lovely.

As for that hot birthday in June—never have I enjoyed a party more. I felt like a candle. My flame may flicker, but God keeps stoking the fire, keeps me burning, brighter, every day.

How to come along
I want you to have that same kind of vibrant encounter with Jesus. Come along with me and you’ll see that every chapter in this book begins with an illuminating quote about the encounter ahead. Mull over that quote, listen to it, ask yourself how it applies to you and your soul and the way you live. Then keep those questions at the front of your heart throughout the whole book. Because these encounters with Jesus are not so that you
will learn more about him (although that is wonderful, and I hope that you do!) or learn more Scripture (although, of course, yes, please, Lord, help us learn more of your Word!). Rather, these encounters are intended to change us, to move us from one place to another. So when you come to Jesus’s words at the top
of each chapter, wait with those words; listen and really hear them.

Moving into the text of the chapter, into the encounter with Jesus, put yourself in the place of the people in the story. Go to the river, the temple, the party, the synagogue.With whom in the stories do you most identify?Perhaps keep a journal of your own encounters with Jesus as you join him in these various places.

Make the book your own as well: don’t save it for someone else. Where do you doubt, question, hope? Where do tears come, longings press forward? Mark those things in the margins of this book so you can track your journey.

At the end of each chapter waits the friend you long for, the person who will ask you hard questions, invite you into silence, share Scripture for your meditation, challenge you with vulnerable prayers and ultimate application: how will you come alongside Jesus today, in what way?

This spiritual Companion shows up in these sections, inviting you to come along to:

Transfer from dark to light

God’sWord tells us that he has transferred us out of darkness and into light—and this section is a prayer place, a time for repentance, for confessing where you messed up, missed the point, made a spectacle. It’s also a place, in that position of humility, of waiting for forgiveness. Be still here. There’s no need to rush through the
offered prayer.Wait a little longer until your own words form after praying through the written words of repentance. Transfix upon Christ. Sit still in silence, wait peacefully in the presence of Christ. If words start to get in your way, invite your worried heart to rest—shhh. Be still and calm. Maybe your silence will last only seconds or a minute or two. But cease-fire your own words, and just point your heart at God. Love God, and let God love you. Gaze at Jesus in stillness, as you used to adore your very first boyfriend, maybe; let Jesus love you back. Translate the meaning.

These questions dive down to the meaning beneath our behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes. They invite us into honesty and into growth as we put ourselves into the encounters with Jesus and learn how to live differently as a result. transform by renewing your mind

Romans 12:2 invites us to “be transformed by the renewing of [our] mind,” and hiding Scripture in our hearts begins lifelong change as we meditate on God’s Word and then wait with this passage. Maybe you will memorize it—write it on a three-by-five card and carry it with you, or tape it on a mirror or your dashboard or your kitchen window or put it in your back pocket. Maybe you will simply read it and wait with God’s words, holding them like a chocolate drop beneath your tongue. Ask God to bring out the flavors of this passage, to highlight a word or phrase for your soul, and to help you apply this passage to your life.This is where transformation happens. Transparency through prayer.

These words are a prayer, a heartfelt rending of the curtain that separates us from God and from our selves. These prayers offer some words to take you into deeper honesty with God. Healing happens when we identify with the encounter with Jesus and then pray through our own issues.

Transpired action
Just for today, how will you live? What will change as a result of your encounter with Jesus? How will these illuminations shine into your soul and out of your life into this world? What action will take place?

If you, too, often feel like a dim wick or a wet log, welcome. You are in good company! But be prepared. These ten encounters with Jesus will take your breath away; they will be like billows to the smoldering coals—they will set you on fire with the Light of theWorld. And then you will shine.

Illuminations on Relationship
“This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”
We must have some room to breathe.… Our relationships are being starved to death by velocity. No one has the time to listen, let alone love. Our children lay wounded on the ground, run over by our high-speed good intentions.—RICHARD SWENSON

The gadget fits in my ear, the size of a cicada and about as annoying. Nearly as light as a fig leaf, it feels fragile and innocuous, but its purpose is to turn me into a work-all-the-time automaton. In the former days, it was enough to just get from point A to point B without solving the mysteries of the universe or at least the issues of waste management, without creating endless lists of to-dos for the return to home base.

Now, we drive from point A to point B, smooshing in C, D, and E for efficiency’s sake, all the while making sure the batteries for the phone and earpiece are charged so we can continue working… um…I mean communicating. Because don’t these gadgets help us keep in touch?

Yesterday I flapped around like a distracted Big Bird for five minutes trying to gather all the information for calls I needed to make on the twelve-minute drive to a lunch meeting (and all the errands on the way). Rather than simplifying my life, this communication device plays into my rule-bound being: I should make the most of every single minute, even if it raises my anxiety to espresso-level jitters.

Can’t we just drive anymore?

No. Because we are driven women, with an unwritten rule book encompassing all thought and behavior. Always, never, should, and ought dictate our days and caffeinate our nights. Our eyeballs jump like kids on a hotel bed, should we dare lower our lids. The specter of our undones and poorly dones drives us; the voices of people in our past and our present remind us of the guidelines carved in stone. Like the old song, “Do this, don’t do that, can’t you read the sign?”

Oh, we can read the signs just fine.We just can’t live by them anymore.

These rules in stone were never designed to bring us life.They were intended to remind us of how impossible it is to live this life, how far short we fall of the mark, how desperately we need relief from all the rules and regulations whispering their guilty messages into our souls.

Come along. Rush to the river, and meet the One who will change everything, absolutely everything, about our rule-bound living.
Jane Rubietta

About Jane Rubietta

Jane Rubietta - Come Along
Jane Rubietta is the award-winning author of eleven books, including critically acclaimed Come Closer. Passionate about helping women connect with God more intimately and live more freely, she speaks internationally to spread the idea that “when a woman changes, the world changes.” Married to Rich, a composer, producer, and pastor, Jane co-directs the not-for-profit Abounding Ministries. She and Rich live in the Chicago area and have three children.


“A gifted writer. The light of scripture shines again through the prism of beauty and story.”
John Ortberg, best-selling author of If You Want To Walk on Water You Have To Get Out of the Boat and When the Game Is Over, It All Goes Back in the Box

“Jane Rubietta’s books are as compelling as her platform presentations. She crafts her content with well-chosen word pictures and profound depth that beckons the readers to ‘come along’ as she leads them into a vibrant and transcendent relationship with Jesus. This book will deepen your faith.”
Carol Kent, speaker and author of A New Kind of Normal

“Another powerful read on encounters with Jesus, self, those we love, and those we are trying to like. Jane addresses hope, healing, attitudes, needs, and longings with grace, grit, and God-centered wisdom. Each chapter ends with challenges and tools that are highly effective in helping us achieve deeper levels of intimacy. Come Along invites us to take the Lord’s hand and walk through life with courage, anticipation, and zeal.”
Ellie Lofaro, co-author of Spaghetti for the Soul and author of Leap of Faith

Come Along made me face the question, Am I following a set of phony rules and expectations in my attempts to be a ‘nice’ Christian, or am I becoming the woman God imagined me to be? With exquisite writing, Jane takes my real, everyday life in the 21st Century and shows me how Jesus is relevant and present in every moment. Her unshakeable conviction in God’s goodness and love convinced me to throw out my misguided attempts to be ‘nice’ and engage in an authentic relationship with Christ. ‘When a woman encounters Jesus, she is changed,’ Jane insists’–and I was.”
Lynn Austin, four-time Christy Award winner and author of Until We Reach Home

“How does Jane Rubietta know me so well? Her refreshing honesty in Come Along promises to help you get in tune with who you are on the inside, and who God is in your life. She helps us slow down enough to reflect, draw closer, and journey into a more intimate faith experience with the God who loves us more than we can ever imagine.”
Jill Savage, founder of Hearts at Home and author of Real Moms...Real Jesus

“Jane Rubietta has done it again! Every time I read her books, I come away challenged, comforted, and encouraged to stop, wait, listen, and come closer to Jesus. I am a better person after reading the words of wisdom in Come Along.”
Pam Farrel, author of more than twenty-five books, including best selling Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti and Ten Best Decisions a Woman Can Make

Reader's Guide|Discussion Questions

About the Book

Though Come Along: The Journey into a More Intimate Faith contains multiple application tools at the end of each chapter, sometimes it is helpful to have additional questions and journey-deepening suggestions enrich personal study and application, and to make leading or facilitating a small group, book club or study easier.

For a five-week study, combine two chapters for each session. There will be ample material to use during your meeting time. These questions work well in combination with the application elements at the close of each chapter, which can be implemented with the suggestions in “The Girlfriend’s Guide” at the end of the Come Along.

General Questions to ask at each session:
1.What stood out for you in this chapter?
2.What scriptures spoke to you? In what way?
3.Where did you sense God tugging at your heart?
4.What emotional responses did you experience?
5.What will be different today? Tomorrow?

Discussion Guides

1. Chapter One: Come Along to the River: Illuminations on Relationship

Matthew 3:17: “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”

Ease-In Questions for Discussion (use these prior to the questions in the chapter)

1. Share a crazy, crammed rushing moment (or moments) from your week. At what point do you lose a sense of God’s Presence? How do you recover that Presence?
2. List one of your ALWAYS rules:
3. List a NEVER rule you unconsciously live by:
4. List a SHOULD, or an OUGHT:
5. Where did these rules originate? (A parent, teacher, grandparent, employer, spouse?) Deep down, what do you hope for with your rules? For instance, are you trying to gain people’s approval? What happens inside you when you don’t live by them?
6. Perhaps you are not a rule person, but rather a free-wheeler who breezes through life. How does your behavior affect others? How does that work in your relationships?

Come Along Further
7. Timeline: the progression from relationship to rules:
• Moses receives the Law on Mt. Sinai, returns with glowing countenance, because of his personal encounter with God. (see Ex. 19:16-20; 34:29-35)
• In spite of the correlation between radiance and relationship, the Israelites’ “religion” dissolves into a set of rules. (see Isaiah 28:12-13) When do you experience this dissolution?
• When Israel was under foreign domination, the Pharisees, in a valiant attempt to preserve the sacredness of Judaism, begin to create layers of rules and corollaries and observations. These replace the relationship (and the radiance) associated with Moses’ trip up and down Mt. Sinai.
• The 400 years of God’s silence, between the testaments, lead us to Matt. 3, where we meet up with John and he notices the Pharisees attending the baptisms at the Jordan River.
8. What is the relationship between 1 Thess. 5:23-24 and Matt. 3:17?
9. What do all the rules–the always, nevers, shoulds, and oughts–have to do with Jesus fulfilling all righteousness? What difference does it make? What difference will this make in your life? What take-away truth will you apply to your life today? And how?

2. Chapter 2: Come Along to the Temple: Illuminations on Transparency

John 8:10-11 “Has no one condemned you? … Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

Ease-In Questions for Discussion (use these prior to the questions in the chapter)
1. What’s your worst laundry nightmare? Most embarrassing apparel situation? (Like getting to school and finding a pair of undies stuck inside your jean’s leg from the laundry? Last weekend, two friends left the women’s restroom. The one behind stopped, tapped her friend on the shoulder, and held up a strip of toilet paper. “This was stuck to you.” They both laughed–as did I. Good thing they didn’t get much further down the hall!)
2. When did you start doing your own laundry? How about in your home now: who does the laundry?
3. What clothing rules did you grow up with? When I was a child in the South, we wore little bitty gloves to church, even if it wasn’t Easter.
4. Consider the encounter with Jesus in John 8:1-11. Who are the players? With whom do you identify most? And why?
5. How do you handle it when someone criticizes you? What is the difference between “wearing white” (being honest about feelings) and criticism (from the word critic, which could also mean judge)?

Come Along Further
6. When have you been the red-faced mob with stone in hand, and when have you been the woman in the middle of her sin, in the middle of the mob?
7. Compare Jesus’s words in Matt. 7:1 and Romans 2:1. How do you distinguish between being honest in a relationship and being judgmental? Where do you cross the line? How easy is it for you to repent of judgmentalism and move back toward the other person?
8. Describe an experience of being forgiven, free from condemnation even though you were guilty. Or, perhaps you know intellectually that you are forgiven, you believe God is serious in 1 John 1:9, but you don’t feel forgiven. Why is that?
9. What is the relationship between John 8:10-11, Col. 3:8-10, and wearing white? The inventory in the Colossians passage is extensive. Any thoughts on those specifically? Troublesome issues? What difference will this make in your life? What take-away truth will you apply to your life today? And how?

3. Chapter 3: Come Along to the Parade: Illuminations on Needs

Mark 10:51 “What do you want me to do for you?” Jesus asked.

Ease-In Questions for Discussion (use these prior to the questions in the chapter)
1. Name the most recent thing about which you said, “I wish I had a ______”. Or “I’d love one of those ________.” If someone said, “I’m going to the store. What would you like?” how would you answer?
2. How quick are you at saying, “I would like…” “I would love…” Or if someone says, “What do you want for your birthday, or Christmas?” how easy is it for you to come up with a list?
3. Now the hard question: imagine someone asking, “What do you need today? What can I do for you? How can I help?” What do you say? How hard is that? What excuses do you give?
4. The opening illustration in this chapter is about my co-dependence, which basically means that I figure out who I am and how I feel based on how others are acting (or reacting) around me. My default is to depend on others for my sense of self. When do you fall into that trap?
5. How do you feel about needy people?

Come Along Further
6. Bartimaeus called Jesus “Son of David,” a reference to Jesus as the Messiah. Historically, people expected a political king with a physical kingdom, like King David. But see Isaiah 9:1-7 for the broader context of this “Son of David”. Compare the prophecy of Isaiah 9 with Bartimaeus’s experience. Truly, this son of Timaeus sat in darkness, and saw a great light…the Light of the world, and was freed from the prison of his darkness.
7. After Bartimaeus regained his sight, Jesus’s face filled his vision. Imagine that for your first impression! And how joyfully Bartimaeus jumped to his feet and followed Jesus. My heart physically hurt when I realized that Christ’s path led directly to crucifixion. Bartimaeus has just found salvation, found his sight, found his Savior, only to lose Him at the cross. What does this do to your insides?
8. Notice Bartimaeus’s determination. Not once but twice he insisted to Jesus, “Son of David, have mercy…” even though shushed by the people around him. How do you feel about others’ opinions of you? How do you measure up to Bartimaeus’s determination?
9. What is the relationship between Mark 10:46-51, Luke 1:68-79, and asking for your needs to be met? What difference will this make in your life? What take-away truth will you apply to your life today? And how?

4. Chapter 4: Come Along to the Courtroom: Illuminations on Persistence

Luke 18:7 “Will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night?”

Ease-In Questions for Discussion
(use these prior to the questions in the chapter)

1. When you were growing up, what one thing did you whine and beg for, whether a Christmas or birthday gift or a just-because gift? How did your family handle your pleading?
2. What heart’s desire did you repeatedly ask for that you never received?
3. Who do you know who set an impossible goal and never gave up until attaining it? Perhaps it was you, even. What was the story there?
4. Speaking of prayer requests, read James 4:1-3. What are your motives in asking? How do you determine if a request is okay? Our desires can clearly get in the way of whole and holy living (v. 1-2). When have you experienced some of these situations?
5. “You ask with wrong motives,” James writes. Think about that: do you put your requests before God because you want God’s way, or your way? Are you desperate for God, or God’s answers?

Come Along Further
6. What does Luke say was Jesus’s hope in telling the story of the persistent widow? (see Luke 18:1). When have you felt like giving up? Losing hope?
7. Talk about the judge a little bit. His decision wasn’t based on the law, on what was right or appropriate. It was based on his own biases and weaknesses. He was judgmental as a judge, but not initially in a good way. God is profoundly convicting me of my judgmental attitude these past weeks (okay, months). When do you catch yourself being judgmental, making decisions about how you will treat others based on your feelings about them rather than God’s feelings about them, or based on God’s leading? For more references, visit Matt. 7:1, Romans 14:13, James 4:11-12.
8. How does your view of God mesh with Jesus’s words: “Will [God] delay long over them? I tell you that He will bring about justice for them speedily” (Luke 18:7b-8). How do you reconcile the times you have waited (and are still waiting, perhaps) with this statement about God? Correlate these verses in Luke with 2 Timothy 4:7.
9. How do you experience God soothing you while you wait? This widow’s desperation, her weakness, her need propelled her forward. They became gifts. How do you move to that place yourself? What difference will this encounter make in your life? What take-away truth will you apply to your life today? And how?

5. Chapter 5: Come Along to the Crowd: Illuminations on Healing

Mark 5:34 “Daughter…Go in peace and be freed from your suffering.”

Ease-In Questions for Discussion
(use these prior to the questions in the chapter)
1. The woman in our illuminating encounter with Jesus is the woman with the hemorrhage; she trucked around to many doctors (and likely quacks) trying to find a remedy. What kinds of quack remedies have you tried to beat a problem? (The magical pill to lose weight, the eat-everything diet, the battery-operated exercise belt, the instant wealth or 1-2-3 voila parenting book…)
2. What are some of your “unclean”, no touch rules? Or phobias? My sister and I were in a restaurant’s bathroom, and after we washed our hands, we headed to the door and both stopped simultaneously. Neither one of us wanted to touch the door handle to get out. Then we dissolved in hysterics, not realizing we shared the same phobia. When we could stop laughing, she used her sweatshirt sleeve to open the door.
3. Meg Ryan’s character says, “I hated myself for being low and weak.” How easy to move into shame over our “stuff”. When have you felt that way? She goes on to blame her husband for “making me feel small and worthless.” What is her core fear in the illustration? Contrast that to what Jesus says in Heb. 13:5.
4. Why do people move away from us–or we move away from them–when pain or problems surface?
5. Thinking about the bleeding woman’s uncleanness, and the implications of Lev. 20:18: What havoc has your un-healing played in your relationships?

Come Along Further
6. The Old Testament is full of “unclean” restrictions and rules. Some offerings were sacrificed outside the camp, people with infectious diseases had to live outside the camp until they were declared clean by the priest. (Lev. 8:16-18, 13:45-47). What implication do you see when comparing these rules with the “outside the camp” references in Heb. 13:10-14?
7. Some see the fact that she touched the fringe of his garments as a reference to Malachi 4:2. Matt. 9:20, a parallel account of our Mark 5 story, tells us that the bleeding woman touched the tassel of his garment. (For another encounter, see also Matt. 14:35-6.) Tassels were required for the priests as a reminder of their need to obey the commandments (Num 15:37-39). What significance do you see here, in light of Christ’s perfection?
8. The thoroughness of Jesus’s healing stuns me. He doesn’t stop at spiritual healing, though that would be enough. He goes all the way with physical and emotional healing, as well as social. How do you see this in the example of the woman with the hemorrhage?
9. Compare the encounter in Mark 5 with Isaiah 41:10. What is the significance? What difference will this make in your life? What take-away truth will you apply to your life today? And how?

6. Chapter 6: Come Along to the Party: Illuminations on the Fragrance of Gratitude

Luke 7:45 “Your sins are forgiven.”

Ease-In Questions for Discussion
(use these prior to the questions in the chapter)
1. When I was a child, I had nosebleeds from allergies, and frequently looked rather battered because of it. People would avoid eye contact with me because I was pretty unlovely. When have you been one of the unlovelies? What was that like?
2. In the movie “Pretty Woman”, Julia Roberts experiences some of the sense of being an outcast and unwelcome at events when her past is known. What other examples do you have of people with unlovely backgrounds trying to make their way into “regular” (if there is such a thing, which I doubt) society?
3. What is your experience with unlovely people? How do you respond? Who do you know who makes waves, rocks the boat of people’s expectations (and judgments) in order to follow Jesus?
4. Our woman in Luke 7 showed up at a dinner party without invitation or welcome. When have you been the uninvited guest at a party? What happened? How did you feel?
5. Uninvited guests were allowed in the days of Christ, but they were to be quiet, to be sequestered away from the chosen guests, and to not make a scene. How did this rule play out in this story?

Come Along Further
6. Do you most relate to Simon, the righteous one, or the “sinner” woman? How do you know this about yourself? [Note: This woman is often assumed to be the same woman who anointed Jesus at Bethany, Mary the sister of Martha and Lazarus (John 12:1-8), but the timeline is different. Mary anointed Jesus just prior to the crucifixion, six days before Passover. This “sinner” woman appeared early in Jesus’s ministry.]
7. In this passage, Jesus circles again to forgiveness, just as he did with the woman caught in adultery in chapter 2 (John 8). He links it to gratitude–the more forgiven we are, the more grateful we are. How does this fit with your understanding of “degrees” of sin? (i.e., is a particular sin more weighty than another? So this woman’s forgiveness of, at the very least, loose morality or of prostitution would be a more serious sin than perhaps Simon’s self-righteousness over his own presumed sinlessness? See Rom. 3:23.)
8. On the subject of gratitude, see Col. 2:6-8. Hebrews 12:28 shows that gratitude is an offering, a service to God. Other thankful verses include Col. 3:15-16. Lev. 7:11-16 and 22:28-30 detail the thanksgiving sacrifices or offering. What would a thanksgiving offering look like for you?
9. Rahab could be considered this woman’s Old Testament counterpart (Joshua 2). With her confession about God, she moved away from her old life and into her new–even though she would have to live outside the camp (there it is again!) for a season when she moved in with the Israelites. And Rahab is named in the lineage of Jesus. How do these two stories fit together? Compare the encounter in Luke 7 with Ps. 34:4-6. How do these relate to one another, and what is the so-what? How will you breathe in the forgiveness, breathe out gratitude, and offer that to others? What is your radiance factor?

7. Chapter 7: Come Along to the Meadow: Illuminations on Growth

Luke 12:27 (NASB) “Consider the lilies, how they grow.”

Ease-In Questions for Discussion (use these prior to the questions in the chapter)
1. Describe your growth curve as an adolescent. One of my children grew four inches in one year, which was a bit of a stretch (ha!) in all ways. My first driver’s license showed a third-world thin waif, documenting her at 5’9” and 100 pounds. (Self-esteem issues, anyone?)
2. What sayings about growing did you hear, or do you say yourself? “Growing like a weed” etc. How did you feel when people commented on your physical growth?
3. What did you want to be when you grew up?
4. If you were to have an emotional or spiritual growth chart, where would there be big leaps in growth, and why? What about the little-to-no-growth places?
5. Considering the lilies, as Jesus suggested: how they grow, that they grow, that we expect them to grow. Transfer that to your own life. What are your expectations of yourself when it comes to growth relationally? Emotionally? Spiritually?

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6. Who has helped plant, or water, seeds of growth in you? What is humbling about 1 Cor. 3:5-7?
7. Gal. 6:8-10; Eph 2:20-22, 4:15-16 all show various aspects of growing up. Where is there evidence of this growth in your life? Or lack of growth?
8. Read 2 Thes. 1:3. This seems like a good growth area for the church. Where do you see that happening? How do you foster that kind of growth?
9. Compare our story in Luke 7 with Col. 1:9-12. What will you cling to your for your next growth spurt, growth goal? The Col. 1 passage suggests several areas of growing. Which resonate with you, convict you? How will you take time to consider the lilies? What difference will Jesus’s words make in your life?

8. Chapter 8: Come Along to the Synagogue: Illuminations on Hope

Luke 13:16 “Should not this woman…be set free on the Sabbath day?”

Ease-In Questions for Discussion (use these prior to the questions in the chapter)
1. The last chapter was about growth. But here we encounter our own growing-out-of-bounds expectations of ourselves, the Competent Women Must Do it All Rule. Where do you find that you embrace the “do it all, do it by yourself and without sleep” rule?
2. When did someone surprise you with a gift that you didn’t ask for, didn’t expect? How did you respond?
3. What about when something really excellent happens to you–but not to your friend or a loved one. How do they respond? What if the situation is reversed: how do you react to wonderful news in another person’s life? With jealousy? Wondering why good things never happen to you? Wonder why God seems to show another person favor and not you?
4. How would you describe hope? Consider that question, then read Emily Dickinson’s poem:
HOPE is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all,
And sweetest in the gale is heard; 5
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.
I’ve heard it in the chillest land,
And on the strangest sea;   10
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.
What are some characteristics of hope, as described here? How is hope effortless? What does it cost its recipient?

5. Our encounter today with the woman bent over for 18 years humbles me. How do you see hope in her story? How might you react to such a long infirmity? What might that do to your relationship with God?

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6. This incident in the synagogue is only recorded in Luke. Jesus’s unprecedented acknowledgement of a woman’s value stunned and infuriated the Pharisees. How did they excuse their reaction? And how does Jesus counter it? When have you experienced prejudice such as the Pharisees demonstrated?
7. Jesus has a pattern of saying “How much more…,” as in this encounter with the woman in the synagogue. What is his comparison here? (Other writers in Scripture use this tool, as well, and the comparison/contrast statements frequently concern the depth of God’s commitment to care for us.) Read Matt. 7:11, Matt. 12:12, Luke 12:24, 28. When have you experienced the “How much more” of God?
8. A woman in one of the churches we attended had the troubles of Job: problems with children and grandchildren, chronic and misdiagnosed pain and mystery diseases, osteoporosis, a tricky heart. But her hope challenged me every time we spoke. Whose hope challenges you? In what ways?
9. How can you incorporate the praises of Psalm 9:1-2, 9-11 and the hope of Romans 5:1-5 into your life? What will be different about your approach to the complexities and infirmities of life?

9. Chapter 9: Come Along to the Plains: Illuminations on a Clean Heart

Matt. 15:11 “What goes into a man’s mouth does not make him ‘unclean,’ but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him ‘unclean.’”

Ease-In Questions for Discussion
(use these prior to the questions in the chapter)
1. What’s your favorite “don’t get dirty” story? As a child, I took rules very seriously. I knew in kindergarten that you always wash your hands after visiting the restroom. To me, this meant that I should not wash my hands before that little visit, and on a finger-painting day, literally stood in the bathroom debating whether to first wash my hands and then potty, then re-wash them. Deciding it would be disobedient to wash twice as well as terribly time-consuming, uhm, yes, I somehow managed to get finger-paints all over my little navy blue dress and everything else I touched. Talk about the letter vs. the spirit of the law!
2. Where are you on the continuum of cleanliness: OCD or IDC? (that would be, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder or I Don’t Care)
3. The Pharisees put so much focus on being right that they ruled out relationships. How or with whom have you experienced that impact? And, did you have a secret club when you were a child?
4. How do your own rules keep you safe? And what is beneath that? Do your rules keep you from sin, or help you exercise control over your world, or…?
5.When have you driven around unclean, without permission for God or anyone to search the car that is your heart? What was that like for you?

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6. In Col 2:20-23, Paul challenges the Colossians to examine their rules and the reasoning behind them. In Acts 10, how do the rules relate to Peter, and what happened as he moved beyond rules? How did this impact his faith? The spread of Christianity?
7. How might moving beyond the rules–note we are not saying, “Don’t have any morals, standards, or rules of behavior”, but rather, move to the heart of the rules, and beyond that–how might this open your heart to others, and open others’ hearts to Christ?
8. Luke was the only Gentile among all the New Testament writers. In his introduction to Luke in the Message, Eugene Peterson writes of the common sense of feeling left out, like a misfit, and how our reaction to that is frequently to form our own club.
“The terrible price we pay for keeping all those other people out so that we can savor the sweetness of being insiders is a reduction of reality, a shrinkage of life. Nowhere is this price more terrible than when it is paid in the cause of religion…reducing the huge mysteries of God to the respectability of club rules…but with God there are no outsiders.” What “club rules” do you feel impact the church today?
9. Paul uses the phrase “How much more” in 2 Cor. 3:9. What is he contrasting/comparing? How does it relate to the Pharisees, and to driving dirty?
10. Compare our encounter between Jesus and the Pharisees with 10:22. What is the after-effect of washing? What difference does this make to you? What will be different as a result of this encounter with Jesus?

10. Chapter 10: Come Along to the Garden: Illuminations on Becoming Yourself

Matt. 28:9-10 “Greetings…Do not be afraid.”

Ease-In Questions for Discussion
(use these prior to the questions in the chapter)
1. What’s your favorite makeover story? What “radiant” products do you have in your purse or makeup drawer at home?
2. Share a childhood fear, however irrational or silly it seems now. What about a current fear? (or fears)
3. If you could go anywhere, do anything, be anyone, what would that look like? Don’t let your fear edit your list.
4. How do your fears help you? How do fears limit you, prevent you from becoming the woman God created you to be?
5. The Gospel of Luke opens with an angel ordering Zacharias, “Fear not.” Matt. 28 draws to a close with another angel, telling Mary Magdalene and another Mary, “Do not be afraid” (v. 5). When they run from the garden (with fear and with joy great, v. 8), they run smack-dab into Jesus, who says, “Do not be afraid” (v.10). And in between, we have Jesus. Jesus fulfilling all righteousness, Jesus opening the “club” for everyone who will call upon him for salvation, Jesus abolishing all fear and promising his presence forever. How do you let this fact into your heart? [P.S. Regarding the women’s fear, Craig Keener (The IVP Bible Background Commentary, 1993, p. 129) states that it was illegal to mourn publicly for anyone who had been executed. These women had every right to be terrified, as they were breaking the Law. All the kinder and timely of Jesus, the One who fulfilled the Law, to soothe them with “Fear not”!]

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6. The fact that women were the first eyewitnesses to the resurrection of Jesus puts decided emphasis on their worth in Christ’s eyes. It also further cements the truth of the witness, because no one in that culture would have wanted to invent such a counter-cultural story given the status (or lack thereof) of women, and certainly not to name them. What does this stamp of approval mean to you?
7. Some believe that the “other Mary” in this passage is Jesus’s mother (see also Mt. 27:56), which means that she would be the only person with him from the beginning of His earthly life to its end. If so, what an amazing picture of a mother’s faithfulness. Her heartbreak at the cross is beyond my imagination. How astounding her joy must be when she encounters her son in resurrection! Oh that we would have the same joyful encounter. What do you say to that?
8. Consider the words to the hymn, “Love Divine all Loves Excelling”: “Finish then Thy new creation, pure and spotless let us be…” How does this finishing relate to becoming who we really are, and what place does this resurrection encounter in the garden have in that becoming?
9. Compare the hope of a new creation with your fears. Now re-read Eph. 3:30-21, and 2 Cor. 3:18. What is the so-what for you? How will you move from this illuminating encounter, this life-changing resurrection, into the rest of your life?

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